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You take the good, you take the bad

It definitely takes forethought to have the overweight fag Campus Ambassador give the tour for the Hale Advanced PE class. My favorite moment was when we were walking past Barnes Hall and the TEACHER, an alumnus of CMU, comments, "that's where the band fags lived"

And I didn't say anything. I let the fact that I was representing the admissions department silence me, unsure of how Jennifer would want me to respond.

So now I feel like a piece of shit for not confronting him. It didn't help that Mike Camillari acted disappointed when I related the story to him (he was working desk when I took them in for lunch). According to him, my confrontation with him last year was very meaningful.

I'll get Jennifer's opinion first, but I don't plan on letting shit like that slide ever again, whether I have her blessing or not.

UPDATE: Just spoke with Jennifer, who felt that, given the dynamic, it was more appropriate not to confront. I feel better about it, but think that if I had it to do over again, I would have pulled the teacher aside and shared my thoughts with him as the kids went into lunch. Like I told Jennifer, I want to tell him, "If you're going to say shit like that, don't say you are Central alum, we don't want to claim you. Say you're from Eastern!"

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whosaidilied
Nov. 4th, 2002 09:43 am (UTC)
oh lord, do I ever know how you feel.

I always want to tell people DON'T EVER USE THE WORD FAG/NIGGER/JEW IN MY PRESENCE but no one wants to be the invasive politically correct anal retentive bystander. I say, go for it.

When someone uses the word fag, you can politely remind them that it refers to gay men being tied to-gether at the feet of a criminal or prisoner (like a bundle of sticks, the word's initial meaning) and ignited, a witch-burning and heretic-punishing practice that killed two birds (or many homosexual birds) at one time. Also the origin of the word "flaming."

Tasteful, eh?
fruittree36
Nov. 4th, 2002 10:09 am (UTC)
oooh....
I'm sorry, and I thought that my biggest problem as a CA was staying mum about my beliefs when Freshmen talk about wanting to live in Robinson Hall next year.
mister_biv
Nov. 4th, 2002 11:17 am (UTC)
I would've kicked the shit outta that bastard... well, maybe not, but it sure sounded nice.

Should something like that happen again on one of your tours, my suggestion is to just ask them politely to repeat themselves while giving them the cold blinding stare that I always get when I do something stupid. Maybe then they will think about what they said. Or maybe not... in which case you can pull out the whoop-ass and just lash out. :-)
mister_biv
Nov. 4th, 2002 11:35 am (UTC)
completely unrelated
...as usual, eh???

The song Melissa was talking about on Chrissy's CD was Me and Bobby McGee.
tick043
Nov. 4th, 2002 12:02 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry hun. I'm a firm believer that you should always stand up for your beliefs. Just tell the bastard what you feel and when admissions questions you on it later, tell them that you were simply exemplifying (sp) the tolerance of diversity seen on campus. Then, if they give you shit about it tell them where they can stick it. You don't need that. No one should make you feel less of yourself. I wish I would have heard it, cuz he would have never gotten away with it in front of me. Try to cheer up, and I'll see you in the morning. Your not taking any shifts for anybody tomorrow. No matter who it is.
curlycutie
Nov. 4th, 2002 12:08 pm (UTC)
standing up for your beliefs is way more important than avoiding pissing off who you work for. cuz in the end you have to live with yourself. stand up for yourself you'll feel better about yourself in the end. don't feel bad about not standing up for yourself though, sometimes when you are caught off guard like that and are offended you aren't really able to respond. i've been there...just think of it as a learning experience for the future.
terabithiabeth
Nov. 4th, 2002 12:53 pm (UTC)
Ouch!

Well you were certainly in a no-win situation, with very little room for maneuvering an appropriate response. As I wasn't there and didn't see what happened, I certainly can not pass judgment, but I think you acted very responsibly, with due regard for the people you were with, especially in light of the fact that you were there with them representing your school, not acting on your own personal behalf. I imagine that most of your tour group understood that silent dynamic. I am sure the teacher made him/herself look like the idiot. If he/she had carried on with further comments becoming abusive, your options would have become more clear, but with an offhand remark tossed like that, your discretion was probably the wisest choice. It certainly is admirable, in that it has cost you personally.

Take heart, and remember what Shakespeare said about discretion being the better part of valor. I think the university will appreciate your maturity and thoughtfulness in such a delicate situation. And next time, you will be better prepared. I just hope you do not have a next time.

mister_biv
Nov. 4th, 2002 03:22 pm (UTC)
in regards to your update
Dawg, don't be dissin' my hometown!!!!
nickslickerton
Nov. 4th, 2002 06:32 pm (UTC)
A TEACHER said that? CMU should do a better job sifting out the bigots before handing out diplomas.
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