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I don't know if I ever shared this piece of advice with anyone who is reading this, but I've offered it up several times to clients (when I was a therapist) and residents (when I was an RA): no matter what happens, no matter how hard it gets, finish your bachelor's degree. You can lose your job, you can lose your house, you can lose your legs, but no one can take away your degree once you've earned it. If you're ever faced with having to start over, starting over with a degree is much easier that starting over with nothing.

This piece of advice was given to me my freshman year of college, by the most demanding college professor I've ever had. These words carried me through, got me back on my feet after the many blunders I created. It took me until May, 2003, but I got the damn degree.

I've been back at KCC for three weeks, having had to start over, but because I have a bachelor's degree, an associate's worth of computer networking classes will get me into a career I can handle over the long term. Since coming back to Cornflake, I've entertained the notion of dropping in on this man, and thanking him for his words.

I waited too long; he died Friday night. Maybe he's offering another piece of advice, never put off telling people how much they mean to you.

I'll try to heed it, Steve. Thank you. Be at peace.

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benson3
Sep. 23rd, 2008 09:50 pm (UTC)
I am sorry for the loss of the man who had such a profound impact on you.
hapgood
Sep. 23rd, 2008 10:59 pm (UTC)
thanks, my thoughts are with you also. I drifted through the other day, and saw you posted a picture of the man. Seeing your comment today about wanting to be out of the relationship, I'm hoping that you are doing well.
benson3
Sep. 23rd, 2008 11:42 pm (UTC)
I'm as good as I ever get anymore! It was nice and sweet while it was on. I guess I just prefer to be off!
fairiegodmother
Sep. 24th, 2008 02:20 am (UTC)
He is glad you heeded his encouragement about education. Says the other stuff is small stuff, not to worry. He's glad you're sharing. Life goes on-and you are much loved and appreciated.
vagabondshoes
Sep. 24th, 2008 02:35 am (UTC)
Powerful post. Sorry to hear about your professor.

Thanks for the advice.
bugandwaterguy
Sep. 26th, 2008 02:21 pm (UTC)
Cornflake U
Autumn & I know one of the academic advisors there. Angie Porter-Corralez, I am not sure Autumn has told you about her.
hapgood
Sep. 26th, 2008 03:11 pm (UTC)
Re: Cornflake U
I haven't met that one, yet, but the way you say it makes it sound like there is something ominous, or really scandalous, about her.

???
bugandwaterguy
Sep. 28th, 2008 12:19 am (UTC)
Re: Cornflake U
Yes she does have some scanalous things in her past, but I should let Autumn fill you in. We are going to be in Kalamazoo next weekend. Want to get together?
hapgood
Sep. 30th, 2008 02:15 pm (UTC)
Re: Cornflake U
This weekend could work. What day would be best? Are you just coming in the night of the concert, or will you be around the entire weekend?
amoslynn00
Oct. 5th, 2008 05:28 am (UTC)
I'm assuming the same goes for Graduate School? God knows nothing else has been helping to get me to finish. I'm stuck, but perhaps your friend's words will help me as well.

As for the second bit of advise, I miss you!!! It's nice to see you posting again.
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